Is it possible to have great work-life balance? This question has been plaguing me recently. I’m finding myself becoming increasingly frustrated with feeling like a failure at all my jobs while desperately clinging to the edge of the mountain that consists of my responsibilities.
I’m sitting in a park as I write this. I had a client cancel a meeting so I have an hour before I have to head to my next case. The sun is shining, it’s 70ish degrees out and the breeze is blowing steadily and I can smell the leaves as they fall off the trees. In other words, pure perfection. All I can think about is saying, “screw it!” and staying here all day. I would LOVE to have my daughter with me right now. I can picture her so clearly toddling around this little area and then running down the trail next to me.
I’ve been feeling so burnt out the past few weeks. Changes at work have kept me in a constant state of scrambling. Normally I’m pretty good at going with the flow, but I just don’t have it in me right now. I want to blame months and months of sleep deprivation. I’m sure that’s part of it, but I have this other voice constantly nagging at me. It’s telling me, “After this week I’ll be able to catch my breath.” Y’all I’ve been saying that for the last DECADE.
That voice is a liar. I’m over it. I think that’s what really underneath it all, nags at me. I want to be done. I want to focus on my family. I want to spend the teeny tiny bits of time I’m home and not with Adaline on things I enjoy and find relaxing (like gardening and writing on my poor, neglected blog) . Instead of being glued to my laptop working.
I haven’t been proud of my parenting the past few weeks. I’m snippy with Adaline and struggling to maintain calm when she melts down. Which is about every 5 minutes because toddlers be crazy. Their emotions are bigger than their understanding and self control. They need you to remain calm when they can’t and help them through their feelings. Yet, all I can think when this happens is, “Seriously, I can’t get anything done. I’m never going to get (fill in work task here) done on time.” This is not the mom I want to be. Even when I tell myself it’s only a chapter of my life and I will be able to stay home at some point, it doesn’t help in the heat of the moment.
I know right now the extra work is so long term I can stay home. Yet all I’m left feeling is like a failure as a mom AND as a Behavior Analyst. I commend the moms that “do it all”. But, right now, I just don’t want to. Saying that hurts my pride a little, but it’s just reality. I don’t believe in only showing the shiny, polished parts of life. That isn’t real. Life is in the raw ugly moments too.
I’m more than grateful for my job and the opportunities it’s afforded me, but I have my eyes set on another job I’d like to do full time. Praying God gives me the patience and perseverance to put in the work now so we can reach our goals as a family. 💜
Help me feel less in despair. What are some strategies you use to balance all your roles?
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Hang in there, Mama! It will all work out! For me, the balance is difficult some days as well. I’ve just begun blogging and am adventuring into the waters of affiliate marketing, hoping passive income takes the lead! (lovinglifeathome101.com) Wishing you the best as you continue to pursue your dreams! Blessings!
Yes I feel like this alot. Can’t ever catch my breath. Take it day by day. ♥️
Wow, love your honest and genuine thoughts here. I’ve been in your shoes so I totally get it! I always try to think of the saying “do something today that your future self will thank you for.” So do what you need to do to get to that ultimate goal. Put the hard work in now and reap the dividends later. It can be done but I know it’s tough to balance it all. Hang in there!
I would say keep a future goal. This usually helps me. Something to stay focused on a finish line. Motherhood is both hard and easy but we are built for this.
I totally get it. I struggle with balance too but I have learned to schedule in time for myself/goals. One thing that helped me with this was asking family and friends for help with out feeling guilty and also communicating my goals to them for support. Hang in there!